Who is the best divorce mediator?

Are you looking for the best divorce mediator in Chicago, or the counties of Cook, Lake, DuPage, Kane, Kendall, Will or McHenry?

If so, that’s understandable. And challenging. I wrote this article about finding the best divorce mediator for you.

Knowledge of the law

Many mediators are not lawyers. Some are therapists. Some are finance people. Some of them are very good, depending upon the issues you are struggling with.

However, you may or may not have serious emotional and financial issues. In contrast, you do have significant legal issues to deal with. After all, divorce is a legal process.

Some very good non-attorney mediators make it their business to learn the law. If you want a non-attorney mediator, I can refer you to one that I think is skilled.

However, keep in mind that mediators are not therapists. Further, if you have complex finances, you should probably consult your own financial planner, or accountant.

As a mediator and a divorce lawyer, I know what should be covered in mediation because I know what a judge expects in court. Furthermore, when I write up the agreement reached in mediation  – called a memorandum of understanding (an “MOU”) – I’m doing so with a detailed understanding of how it will ultimately be used in a marital settlement agreement (JPA) or joint parenting agreement (JPA).

Skill as mediator

As a divorce lawyer in Chicago and its suburbs, my knowledge of the law and what actually happens in court informs the disputes I mediate. I have met some very skilled mediators who are not lawyers. For example, a finance expert and an psychologist with years of experience. Maybe those type of people are right for you. However, in my opinion, it’s best to look for a divorce mediator who is also a lawyer; after all, you are mediating a legal dispute.


As a divorce mediator, I’d like to see my clients as little as possible. Not that I don’t like them, but because the less I see of my clients, the better I’m doing as a divorce mediator.

As a divorce lawyer, I know how difficult an expensive litigation can be. I’ve also been personally involved in very high-conflict divorces and child custody disputes.

AS a divorce lawyer, I devote a significant portion of my practice to helping clients obtain an uncontested divorce in Illinois.

I don’t just talk to the talk. I walk the walk. I want to help you get divorced with the least expense and least stress possible.

Starting mediation

If you are ready to get started with mediation now, contact me at 312-554-5433 or online.

I meet clients in Chicago and in the following Illinois Counties: Cook, DuPage, Will, Lake, Kane, Kendall and McHenry.

About the author: David Wolkowitz is an Illinois Divorce mediator and a family law attorney. He mediates divorce, child custody, and child visitation disputes to help spouses and parents reach agreement without litigation.